People have become so accustomed to the way things are supposed to be, that they forget that they are not living life. Its almost like when you hit 20 what is expected of you is to finish your degree, find a man get married have some babies, then your 40th birthday, your kids graduation, your 50th birthday, your kids weddings then their kids namings ceremonies finally you can wait on earth until death comes a knocking...... They pressure we Afro/Caribbean women are under to follow such stereotypes is disheartening... Not to mention once you stray slightly you are viewed as the odd one or not focused on your priorities.... Who determined that my priorities should be to get married at 25, why must I have a boyfriend NOW!!!!! Why is it sad I enjoy my own company and don't need to be with someone to feel significant..... Its my life my path to walk! Why must everyone weigh in, in such negative ways!
Now I am not saying it is wrong to want those things, for the most part all women would love to be loved and have the beautiful children, house and perfect career!!! But what is never considered is are you emotionally mature and ready to be in a relationship talk less a marriage??? Do you know who you are? And are you comfortable with who you are? If these simple factors are established in the first instance of any marriage or relationship there will be less fights and less likely to be as much divorce.
I'm just saying......................................
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